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Parenting With Reduced Stress

Have daily routine or schedule for your kids to follow. Kids need something constant in their lives and growing up is hard as it is. By choosing a schedule such as when you want them in bed, what time they wake up in the morning or how long they can watch TV, you are setting them up for success. This also helps your children learn at a young age what it’s like to follow an itinerary. It is important that you reward your children’s good behavior. Your children look to you for your approval, so it is important that you let them know when they have behaved well or have exceeded your expectations. This will let your kids know that while bad behavior is punished, good behavior is rewarded. It is important that your children grow up in a loving environment surrounded by family. This makes it imperative that you spend quality time together as a family. There are so many values that kids can’t learn on their own without the presence of supportive family members.

When you must punish your kids, make sure that the punishment is

Talk To Your Kids

Communication is the key to all learning, and if we want our children to be confident, life-long learners, communication skills should begin from the first few seconds of their life.

The sad fact is – we don’t talk to our children enough.

Think back to when your baby was first put into your arms. You did the most natural thing in the world – you spoke to him – communication began.

Unfortunately, for many babies, this important communication stops just as quickly as it begins. Many parents will make the excuse that it seems pointless to talk to someone who doesn’t understand what you are saying.

But the fact is that, that is far from the truth.

You see, from the moment your baby is born he begins to communicate with you.

He cries, which tells you immediately that something is wrong. OK he can’t say exactly what is wrong, but you know by instinct whether he’s hungry, wet, tired, sick, or needs contact with you in the form of a cuddle.

But as

Balancing Love with Discipline

LOVE. Of the fundamental requirements, the first– love–is the most important. And it is unique in that there can never be too much. An excess of discipline, can be harmful. But of love, the more the merrier.

The type of love a child needs is the kind that says, “I love you, Joe, not for what you do or don’t do, but just because you’re you.” This is the uncritical kind of love that builds self-confidence, creates a strong self-image, leads to a willingness to try without fear of the consequences of failing. There is no doubt that most parents feel this sort of affection for their children, but don’t know how to express it effectively. Three precepts may prove helpful:

  • Disapprove of what a child does, not of who he is. There is no inconsistency in paddling a child for misbehavior, and then putting your arms around him and telling him what a fine boy he is and how much you love him. Indeed, you bother to discipline only because you love–a concept that children readily perceive.
  • Praise a child more for being than for doing. Parents generally react favorably

Protecting Our Children

The increase in confusion we now accept as normal may be traced back to World War II when women entered the workforce out of necessity. The men left to fight the war and women were empowered by the opportunity to become meaningful wage earners. It was almost patriotic to do so. The family unit began to change. Initially, the grandparents assumed the duties of the missing parents; there was not a noticeable difference. Then something else occurred.

The men returned when the war was over; America had moved fully into being an industrialized nation with a well-trained workforce of both genders. Women discovered they enjoyed earning an income that contributed to the family in a big way, even allowing them to leave bad relationships and become fully independent. It was progress at its finest. This same progress permitted the family to employ caregivers or utilize something new called ‘day care’. Grandma and Grandpa went home to enjoy their retirement; there was not a great deal of time left to spend as a family unit as this new way of life was developed.

Technology began to move quickly; food preparation changed in a vast way. Gardens and

All about Preparing Teens for Success

Be proactive in discussing life issues with teens. Talking about good education should begin in the pre-teen years. Don’t wait until grade school graduation to talk about high school years. Talk about financial responsibility needs to take place when the first allowance is given out.

Use the dinner table to discuss relevant issues. Do the “what if” game at the dinner table. What if a friend cheats on a test? Would you tell the teacher? What if you found out that a classmate was doing drugs? Who would you inform? What if you were approached for drugs? What should you do?

Why questions are also important. Why is a college education needed in today’s world? Why should you choose a good school? Why is it necessary to work hard to get good grades? Why should you put education and jobs first, followed by marriage, sex, and children?

Provide a safe environment so your teens will feel comfortable confiding in you. Let them know that they are loved, appreciated, and treasured.

Eliminate all drug and alcohol use. Addictive behaviors will make them feel unsafe and will set the background for developing addictive behaviors.


Teaching Kids To Be Responsible

Children feel capable when they have a sense of power, competency and control over their lives, believe that they can handle challenges and that they are able to make a contribution to their environment, and when they feel pride in accomplishment. These things will increase a child’s responsibility.

Not expecting enough or demanding enough of children. By carrying out the “Executive” role, parents can avoid the pitfalls of over-indulgence, help their children to feel good about themselves and learn to be responsible. This includes such things as: setting limits, saying no, holding children accountable, establishing and enforcing rules, setting expectations, encouraging children to give back, in some way assigning chores and making sure they get done setting and following through with consequences.

This needs action. As parents, there are endless things we want to teach our children-how to be thoughtful and caring, how to be creative and innovative, how to be trustworthy and honest, how to be a good listener, and much more.

It’s one thing to try teaching our child responsibility by telling him “You need to be more responsible and pick up after yourself.” It is much easier and more effective to encourage

Good Dining Etiquette in Children

What they shouldn’t do

Kids should be taught about what is agreeable on the dinner table right from a young age. Talking or eating loudly is not appropriate. Neither is starting before everyone has settled down or leaving the table abruptly. One shouldn’t talk with their mouths full. It is repulsive to others sitting and the table and there is also a risk of choking. Negative comments about the food like “Yuck!” are highly unsuitable.

What they should do

The kids shouldn’t fidget on the chair and a proper posture must be maintained for better digestion. The usage of napkins should be employed for wiping off food from the face and hands. May I, please and thank you should be used while asking for the salt shaker or the bread basket instead of lunging across the table. Their cutlery skills must be put into practice unless the meal includes designated finger food.

How to administer the rules

Lead by example-If you are distressed about your children picking up bad mealtime practices from their peers, don’t undervalue your influence. The parents should make sure that they themselves follow the norms of what is acceptable

Children Safe When Driving

Parents, when they follow these guidelines, drive around confident in the knowledge that their children are secured so that when an accident occurred the harm to them might be none or minimal. Parents who are not secure in this knowledge often reach out to community centers and designated stations to help them properly install the car seat. With the establishment of social media parents can also get information on the best way to buckle up their children via You Tube, Pinterest and yes even Twitter.

With so many resources available to families there are some parents who choice not to buckle up their children. Several times a year there are broadcasts on the importance of securing children when they are passengers in any vehicle. There are various videos on YouTube that show, with the use of dummies, what happens to children when the appropriate precautions are not in place. These simulated videos are very alarming. When you see the dummies fly from the back of the car to the front, or when the dummies in front of the car slams against the dashboard you cannot help but wonder why some parents do not buckle up their children.

Raising Children

Literally, my daughter has three hairbrushes, I was so sick of not being able to locate where she was putting them down every morning that every time I went grocery shopping I’d pick up a new one to save me some time. Did this work though… NO! Three brushes have all gone missing at once at times. Usually finding them stuffed underneath my daughters’ bed, or in the car, as she’s running out the door with it in her hand to do it whilst we travel to and from our destination.

Does this make my daughter unorganised? Maybe, but she’s twelve, and I’m not going to berate her over little things like this. I do remind them often of the importance of time management, and they generally listen when I count down how many minutes we have before we leave the home.

I don’t like to compare my kids either, both my kids are unique and have their own idiosyncrasies, so why do parents compare their kids? Perhaps, it’s because they only know their own children inside and out, and they are comparing what one child did against the other. Whilst I think this is OK

Kids Share Room Without War

Extra storage with their beds

Storage beds are the wonderful and ingenious combination of extra storage and a roll out bed. This translates to more available space for the children – as the storage drawers can be ‘put away’ instead of taking up additional space in the bedroom. It also has the added benefit of an extra bed – for sleepovers made simple.

Transform one room into two

Simply dividing a shared bedroom with a room divider is a simple and effective way of creating a personal/ individual space for each child. This also means that you won’t have to do serious building alterations, as you can purchase a divider with an interesting and ‘hip’ design. Alternatively, you can also use a large bookcase/ set of shelves, which will grant you even more storage. Of course, you can combine the room divider and bunk bedsconcepts and create enough sleeping space for sleepovers for each kid as well.

Involve the kids

As mentioned before – children need to express their individuality. Allowing each child to give their input on their side of the bedroom will help them to just that. Remember that more often than

Hiring Teen Babysitter

Look for Proper Training

You can ensure your children are in the safest possible hands when you’re not there by choosing a babysitter with certain qualifications. A teenager with formal training in first aid, CPR and various other emergency procedures may have vital life-saving skills. And any teenager who has taken the time to acquire such qualifications is probably trustworthy, conscientious and intelligent.

Introduce Your Sitter to Your Home

Take your prospective sitter on a tour of your home. This will give you a chance to show him or her where essential supplies, equipment and appliances are. This is also a great opportunity to talk about the rules of your home – for both the children and the babysitter. During the tour, draw the attention of your sitter to emergency procedures such as contact lists and meeting points.

Introduce Your Sitter to Your Kids

Before you entrust your children to the care of a sitter, you should observe some interactions between them. After an initial visit for a tour, invite your sitter back at a time when the children are around – just after school is perfect. Observe how the babysitter communicates with

Survive Market Day With Kids

Let them “drive” the grocery cart

Install your little one in the seat in front of the grocery cart and make sure to strap them in securely. This way, they can see you and all the grocery items lined up in the aisles, but can’t run around grabbing things and knocking over them. While pushing the cart, say things to your child like “Can you take us to the cereal aisle?” and let their imagination work as they pretend to be controlling your supermarket route.

Give them little tasks

It will make them feel important and instil in them a sense of responsibility. Small things like comparing sell-by dates, picking out the reddest apples, and locating the checkout counter with the shortest queue will let kids know that they also have a role in running the house. Don’t forget to thank them afterwards!

Play a grocery game together

Give your kids a piece of paper and a crayon each. Ask them to list down all the grocery items they will see that:

start with the letter ‘C’
are blue
are round

Mobile Apps for Parents

What to Expect – Pregnancy and Baby: I used this app while I was carrying my youngest daughter (she is now a year old). For those who are expecting, this app has an excellent day-by-day and week-by-week guide complete with photos and you will receive personalized updates based on your due date. I absolutely love that feature! It also gives you the opportunity to connect with other Moms which is nice.

Parenting Reminder a Day, A Tip: this app sends a parenting tip to your phone as a calendar reminder every day- you don’t even have to open the app. I am always seeking out more knowledge on parenting, so this was great for me.

Baby Tracker & Digital Scrapbook – Kidfolio Pro: this app is truly one of my faves. It allows you to track your baby’s health and development from growth and immunizations to feedings, diaper changings, pumping sessions, etc. This app really helps to keep everything you need to remember about your child organized. As an added bonus, you’ll also receive information on developmental milestones. You can also capture certain milestones on camera and organize them into a scrapbook! This is just a

Business Management Mirrors Parenthood

1: Lead by example. My work ethic, time spent and treatment of others would shine above all. If I failed, I had myself to blame.

2: Be a good listener. Everyone there knew more than I about the particular industry. It would be wise to ask good questions and make note of the responses.

3: Be firm, when necessary. Regardless of age, experience or the skills of the staff, I would make it clear that I was the final word, even though the process would include discussion and valued opinions.

4: Reward or discipline, according to performance and behavior.. and be consistent.

It took months before I felt that I had molded a great staff, some by heart-to-heart talks, some by re-training and some by replacement. The personality skills that I was able to hone along the way, however, were immeasurable and highly transferable to being a parent. It is a human being’s basic nature to look out for #1, first, and be part of a team, second. We are wired this way. This notion gave me a solid head start and plan going into parenthood, with the goal of molding my own children

Protect Kids in Digital Era

Taking-Over Human Nature

If you look at it from a broader perspective you will come to understand that increased technology can become suffocating. Take for example the use of mobile phones.

They’ve completely altered the way we function as humans. Allowing connectivity all across the world and bringing the phenomenon of globalization to a completely new level.

We see individuals in touch with their old school friends via Twitter and Facebook but they all lack normal interaction with their present family and friends. The essence and comfort of personal interactions is being lost with time and is that something we really aspire to achieve?

So many things to do!

And then there’s the overall increased use of digital media – video games, online streaming movies, TV shows, Netflix, social media and what not. Basically, we now have the convenience of watching anything, anywhere via our phones and laptops. And while this may seem to be greatly convenient, it’s high-time that we realize how these will affect our body, and the illnesses this lifestyle may lead us too.

The Common Problems

• Increased gazing at computer screens, tablets, phones and TV screens

Connect With Your Child Today

1. Give her a hug or cuddle first thing in the morning and allow her enough time to wake up gently.

2. Talk to your child during breakfast and ask him what his day has in store for him.

3. In the evening, spend some time reading together, even if she is reading on her own. Older children still enjoy being read to and also like to discuss their books with Mom and Dad. Listen carefully to her thoughts and findings, and share some of your own.

4. Get involved in something he is passionate about or teach him something that you love to do. Sharing an interest is a great feeling and an excellent way to bond.

5. Make sure to empathize with your child, even if you don’t agree with what she is feeling. When you acknowledge her point of view, you strengthen your connection and build emotional intelligence.

6. Listen kindly to his lengthy story about issues with his friends at recess. Don’t jump to conclusions and try to fix everything. Just listen and be there for him.

7. Have alone time with your child, without your spouse or

When Child Feels Lonely

Being lonely isn’t healthy for anybody. But, it can sometimes be more detrimental to a child. Why? The answer is a simple one. Loneliness has a serious impact on a child’s success in school, which can take years of recovery to correct.

In addition, many children don’t understand why they are lonely. Young children may go so far as to think something is wrong with them. Unfortunately, this can lead to even more complex issues, which are even more difficult to get under control.

Here are a few things you can do when children feel lonely. Depending on the severity of their loneliness, it may be easier to cheer them up than you think.

Keep Them Busy

Keep your child busy with a hobby or their favorite activity. This generally combats loneliness, at least for as long as they remain occupied. If hobbies are not an option, consider taking them to the park or local activity center. Participating in sports or joining a club at school are two more options. Who knows? They may even end up making new friends in the process.

Encourage Children to Open Up

It can be difficult

Living With Creative Child

When my child is amusing us with these little mental challenges I am in awe of her mind – she sees the world from a very different viewpoint than the rest of us; and she keeps us on our toes. But there is a but… She rarely sleeps before 10.00 pm despite being under 9 years old. She never stops. There is always something she is working on or trying to create, drawing and sketching, writing novels (yes) and poetry, baking and painting, then she might pick some flowers to put in a display, ask how to make a fabric collage… and I don’t joke when I say this might all have taken place before 8.30 on a Saturday morning.

My child has an insatiable need to create. She has a desire to be in the PROCESS at all times and in more than one PROJECT. At the moment there is the photographic project – we go on walks in the local countryside and photograph the changing season – currently the beautiful change from Summer to Autumn. The walk then takes on a new life of PROJECT; she becomes frustrated that she cannot get the right picture

Legitimization of Bullying

At the time, I didn’t consider the fact that she encouraged the kids in the class to laugh at the many mistakes I made while reading in front of them as bullying. Nor did I consider her a bully after I stopped reading and began to cry helplessly at the front of the classroom and she still didn’t stop the student’s laughter.

In fact, she continued to encourage it.

I didn’t blame her when those same kids openly mocked me while chasing me all the way home after school day after day.

Now, I feel differently. I believe she played a significant role in legitimizing bullying behavior in her students. She led the way, and her students followed suit; her behavior gave them permission to act in a similarly cruel and unfeeling way – the way bullies act.

To the extent that bullying behavior continued in those same children when they grew up. I’ll never know. But what is clear to me now is the crucial role that adults play in teaching kids appropriate ways to behave – and not by saying so, but by doing so.

This is my story of a

Fit To Be A Parent

It could show up in any number of ways such as:
– Anger
– Hatred
– Lack of trust
– Fear
– Self Pity
– Victim-hood
To name a few

I had some of these behaviours and after doing self-help for years, I finally found and understood why I did what I did and why it was so hard to just stop the behaviour.

To start with, I had some very debilitating beliefs, stored memories and a victim mentality. Although I never sought out for pity, I continually made excuses and reinforced to myself what was drilled into my head from infant hood. I was good for nothing, a waste of skin, and because of that, will amount to nothing in my lifetime.

That is the same language I ended up saying to myself.

I never questioned my own words, because lets face it, what you have been told with intense emotion, repeatedly, you believe. I heard it over and over with absolute certainty while growing up.

How could I not believe it and to top it off, my life was showing me exactly that, making it my reality. You can’t fight what